Remember when your kids were little and they would say something embarrassing in public? You know what I mean. You’re in the grocery store and one of your kids says, loud enough for everyone to hear, I might add, “Why is that man so fat?” Or you are walking down the street with the kids when they see a child in a wheelchair. They just can’t stop staring until they get close enough and say, “What’s the matter with her?”.
We knew that our small children would, for the most part, be forgiven for inappropriate comments. We as parents would try to turn these awkward encounters into, as Oprah would say, teachable moments.
People say that one of the advantages of getting older is that you feel more free to say exactly what is on your mind. You are not quite so concerned about what everyone else might think about you. I admit, my friends and I started feeling this in our forties.
At some age, though, just like Sophia from the Golden Girls, it seems that the filters in our brains begin to falter. We have all heard older people say things out loud that you wish they would have kept to themselves. I have seen it in my own family. It is another one of those things that we have to watch out for as we age. It is a balancing act I guess, but….. balance is just another thing that diminishes as we get older. Sigh!